You have heard it with addiction
You have heard it with religion
Why on earth would you believe it with conversion?
People change religions
Not because they have to because it fulfills a purpose.
They found what they were missing they found what they needed.
People become addicted because they self medicate
Hide from what issues they have
Some say they are just replacing behaviors when sober
Some say they have genetic dispositions to need the chemical imbalance
But most people you talk with who have recovered from addiction say no one I mean no one can change their behavior but them
It comes from within not for someone else but within.
So you may think you are the one to change them no you weren’t
They found their reason their need their want to live without chemical dependency
Some say they find God afterwards, maybe they did get religious or maybe they didn’t
Not everyone who is sober from addiction finds God.
What it was is something deep inside they wanted, they needed
They found who they are
Not every Christian believes in God the same way which is why we have how many religions and denominations?
Even then say they are this or that but not devoted
It is what they want they needed.
Why in the world would you think the same of those who are transgender or gay?
There is no one forcing anyone to be gay.
No one encouraging them to change gender or to love the same gender.
They needed, they wanted it, they were born that way.
There is no conversion there is only someone deciding this is me.
Some know right when born some know later in life.
Believe me if we all knew right from the beginning we wouldn’t need therapy to find ourselves
Again therapist cannot stop addiction, they know what we have all known.
A person changes because they want to not because they were influenced.
The behavior may change with peers but the person inside doesn’t they always revert to their true selves, if they don’t know who that is yet.
So the less you tell someone what to be the less issues you will have
Believe me, why do you think a therapist asks questions?
Not to force someone but to have them find themselves.
Stop telling and start asking without judgement?
Be the listener.
Conflict always lessens when someone feels heard.
Listen
-Jennie Nawrocki